5 Ways To Encourage Independent Playtime

There will be times when you need your child to play on their own. Allowing your child to have independent playtime is just as beneficial as when you have playtime together. Some children are more open to it than others. For me personally Isaiah will spend lots of time playing on his own and can usually keep himself entertained with the right materials for half an hour. Below are a few of my tips for encouraging your toddler to play on their own so you can make a phone call, wash the dishes or plan your day in peace!

1. Set out toys or activities you KNOW they can do.

Put away any toys your child may be in the process of mastering. If I know I need to get a work task done while the boys are awake, I usually put away the puzzles. This is one of the toys Isaiah will always ask for help with. If you know your child can play with all of the toys you set out you can be confident about asking them to wait until you are available without wondering if they truly needed you in that moment. If they still come and ask you to help them or play you can say something like: "I love that you've asked me to join you (or help!) I'm going to have you play (or try!) on your own and I can join you in a little while." You can also use a timer as a physical representation on when you will be back to join them. I share more about the use of timers below.

2. Create A YES Space

It's hard to concentrate on your task, when you're concerned if your child is safe. Create a yes space in your home that is big enough for them to explore and play without you having to pop in and out, breaking their concentration. This space can be as big as a playroom or as small as a corner in their bedroom. Baby proof it and set them free! You'll be amazed on how long kids and play without us constantly reminding them to be careful or to not play on something.

3. Pull Out Something New

If you have a child that gets bored easily, pull out something new! The dollar store and Target have budget friendly sections full of affordable activities for kids. I've seen coloring books, paint, puzzles, slime kits and toy cars that can be reserved for times that you need a #mombreak the most. Because it's new the likely hood your child can play on their own is heightened and they'll be excited to get involved in something special.

4. Try Busy Boxes Or Bags

These kits are premade for times you need to keep your child busy! You can rotate them so your child is always interacting with something new. My mom created something like this for my siblings and I when she had conference calls on the phone. Inside had crayons and paper, a deck of uno cards, stickers, stamps, books and a snack like goldfish and a juice box so we didn't have to ask her for food! Customize how you like and get creative!

5. Use A Timer!

Young children have a hard time understanding time, five minutes can feel like eternity! Use a timer and say: "When you hear the timer go off that means I am able to come back and play! Listen out for when it rings!" Most kiddos are comforted by the fact that that little timer can tell YOU when it's time to play with them again. When you hear it, stick to your word and come back to play with them!